Win the love of your crush! The ultimate guide on toasting ladies
Have you ever wondered how to make a woman fall in love with you? Are you constantly watching beautiful and smart ladies getting snatched by other guys? Learn how to toast a lady and win her love. With these tips, you will never lose a gorgeous girl to someone else again.
How can I toast a girl and win her love?
If you experience absolute loss for words whenever you see a lady you like, and start thinking “she will never like someone like me”, this article is definitely for you. We will help you to learn how to toast a girl. Of course, you cannot “make” someone love you, but with these tips, you will have a bigger chance that she will like you back and this will lead to a potential relationship.
So, here are some essential tips on how to approach a lady and what to say when toasting a girl and other things that will help you with winning the heart of the one who caught your eye!
How to toast a lady: the ultimate guide
Want to know how to win a girls heart? Sure no ultimate way would work for every girl, but there are some common practices that usually attract ladies. Read these tips – they will help you understand women better and become good at talking to them.
The first stage – beginning
- Do not rush her. First of all, remember not to come off as too pushy. You will creep a woman out if you attempt to push her into something – they do not like it. She barely knows you, so show yourself from a better side to win her eventual affection. Keep in mind that relationships develop gradually, so she will not fall in love with you at first sight, but if you continue showing your good qualities, you may stand a chance later on.
- Be brave and confident. Women like men who act and speak with confidence. This should not be confused with large ego – if your only purpose is showing how awesome you are, you will come back with nothing. Being confident means being courageous enough to start a simple conversation with a woman and keep it up without stuttering and confusion. For instance, you can compliment her dress, ask for directions, or just tell her that you find her interesting to talk to and ask if you could steal a few minutes of her time. Do not attempt to be “charming” and speak in an unnatural flirty voice – this will throw her off. Just be yourself and show her that you are genuinely interested.
- Hang out with the other girls. One thing that could make a woman trust you is having a fair share of female friends. This does not mean flirting with them, just having girls in your company. This will be a hidden message for a woman that other girls find you trustworthy and nice. You can also attempt to make friends with her female friends, because after all she will often turn to them for advice, and you have to be sure they think highly of you. Remember, no flirting with them, just casual relaxed conversations!
- Take care of your hygiene. This step is more important than you think. Most women take pride in looking neat and smelling nice, so they appreciate the men who think the same way. If you are careless when it comes to your hygiene, be prepared for rejections. Clean hair, clothes, and body are an absolute must-haves if you want to impress a lady. No matter how well you can hold the conversation, she will just feel disgusted around you if you are smelly, sweaty and have bad breath. For maintaining good hygiene, you have to shower daily, no matter what. You should also shave your facial hair regularly and use deodorant instead of cologne. There is no point in using a lot of cologne to mask the body odor – it is not effective and creates even worse smell. Instead, shower every day, use deodorant and a little cologne.
- Make her laugh. If she laughs while she is with you, it means that you bring her positive emotions, so this is a good sign. However, you should not take advantage of this aspect. Before attempting anything more, let the girl become your friend and make her trust you. She has to know that you are not planning on breaking her heart and that you care about her feelings.
- Be sincere and open with her. None of the compliments and flirting actually matter, if she feels unsafe around you and does not trust you. If you compliment her, you should do it from the bottom of your heart, speaking of the things that you truly like and admire about her. You should not be afraid of disagreeing with her, as long as you respect her opinion, provide good reasons why you think this way, and do not threaten her into agreeing with your beliefs. Who knows, maybe she will develop more respect for you because you are a bold personality who is not afraid to speak his mind.
- Prove to her that you truly like her. There is a difference between simple crush or lust and actual feelings. She should see that you do not just desire her kiss or something more – you actually want to know her better and discover her personality. Ask her questions about her life and talk to her a lot when she is up to it. Listen carefully to what she is saying, and always look her in the eye – this is an indication that you are listening.
- Compliment her often. Of course, if you will go overboard with the cheesy and sickly sweet compliments, the girl will not be satisfied with these empty words. Instead, you should find the right time, place and words to compliment her sincerely on what you like and admire about her. For that, you should praise her on what is important for her. For instance, if she thinks that she is an athletic type, you should put emphasis on her leadership skills and competitive spirit. Do not give her too many compliments about her looks. The women like feeling pretty, but they also want to feel that you like them for more than just their appearance, so focus on the personality of your date. If you want to give her an appearance-related compliment, usually stick to complimenting eyes, hair, smile, lips, and feeling of style. But mostly, you should make sure she knows how happy she makes you, and how elated you feel when she is around. Girls really love feeling like they are important and play a role in your life.
The second stage – getting to know the woman
- Memorize the lady’s eye color. For this, you should look into her eyes as often as you can when you are talking to her. To train your memory, try to memorize the eye color of every person that you meet. Once you focus on the eyes, you will notice that every person has very different and beautiful ones.
- Practice your flirting. Obviously, you have already started your flirting with this woman with the help of compliments and sweet talks. But now, it is time to take it to the next level. This does not mean that you should do something inappropriate – do not even try! We are only going to give you a few tips on confidence. First of all, you should visualize your success and be sure about your ability to win her heart, especially if you know that the woman definitely likes you back but is too shy to voice her feelings. Give her little touches, but in safe areas – like, touching her hand gently when you are talking to her, rubbing her back, putting a hand on her shoulder when you are willing to get attention from her, etc. You can also tease her playfully about something she loves or is good at (do not tease her about her insecurities and weaknesses!). For instance, if she is good at playing sports games, tell her that you would not want to play a game against her, because she would not leave you a chance.
- No playing games! All the good relationships are based on honesty, truth, and sincerity. You can not start a good relationship with lying to her (for instance, saying that you had had a lot of girlfriends when you never had one, or telling her stories about your possessions that are nonexistent). Also, be honest about what you need from this relationship because otherwise this is just a waste of time. If you strongly feel like your girlfriend does not want the relationship to be serious, talk to her honestly and voice your concern instead of playing along just to keep her. “Cold and unapproachable man” attitude is not going to get you far. Do not play hard to understand, because the woman will most definitely mistake this behavior for coldness towards her.
- Be a reliable man. Every girl wants to have someone who she can always trust and rely on. Let her know daily that you are interested in how she is doing, without being too pushy, jealous or controlling. For instance, if she attended some important event, ask her how it was, or if she met some new people, show interest and ask her about them. This way, she will feel that you like her, and you will not even have to say it outright.
- Do not give empty promises. No one likes people who talk a lot and promise mountains but then back off. If you want to do something for your girlfriend and have told her about it, be sure to follow through your promise. Aside from that, you should really take care of your own reputation. Treat the other women nicely and do not harass them, otherwise, she will doubt whether you are planning on doing the same to her in the future. Have some great friends who are ready to help you out when you need it, and just be someone who is generally liked and respected.
- Let your girlfriend wear your jacket when she is cold. This is a really simple tip, but it always works on women. Giving her your jacket when she is cold is a sign that you care about her well-being. She will feel safe and protected by your side. However, make sure that your jacket is clean, and has no unpleasant smells.
- Always show interest in her hobbies. Ask her how her day was, and when she starts talking about something that she loves, demonstrate an interest in it. For example, if she is into horse riding and is really enthusiastic about it, ask her questions about her horses and competitions. The huge red sign for a woman is someone who diminishes and makes fun of her hobbies and interests or tries to control what she should like and what she should not. Do not be the guy who does this – it will not put you in a better standing not only with women but with anyone.
The third stage – making the relationship official
- Share her emotions with her. If she looks really happy and excited, then share this happiness with her and be cheerful. Do not let her know that her reasons for happiness are silly – you will risk upsetting her and losing her trust. On the contrary, if she has a rough day, tell her that you understand and feel her pain and that the only thing you want is for her to feel better. Ask her whether you could cheer her up in some way. In case you know some special way that would definitely make her feel better, always use it. For instance, surprise her with her favorite food, bring her to a place that is special for her, or offer to play her favorite video game. No matter what it is, go out of your way to cheer your girlfriend up. But if she just wants to be left alone, do not be pushy and let her have her alone time.
- Love her for unique little things. Perhaps she has some traits that she is insecure about, but you find them very special and unique. Show her that you like everything about her looks and personality, and not just like her in spite of something. Be careful if she has any insecurities: you should never call attention to them, especially in front of other people, or compare her to others.
- Make her feel beautiful. Continuing the previous point, you should always make her feel like she is the best lady in the entire world. You can even say this directly when the right time comes. Every girl loves when she is complimented. Make sure that you are pointing out both her inner and outer beauty.
- Develop your skills in communication. All the ladies like it when their partners are interesting people who have a lot of exciting stories to tell. Share the stories about yourself and people you know that you find exciting and worthy to tell about. If she shares her vulnerabilities with you, it would be fair if you share yours as well. In good relationships, conversations flow naturally, so if this is happening between you and your girlfriend, this is a really good sign.
- Always let her know that you love and care about her. This is the most important thing about any relationship. Love her for who she is, and constantly keep proving your love by showing it. These things do not always require saying out loud, so instead of repeating “I love you” a thousand times, demonstrate it with your actions.
How to behave appropriately with a lady and maintain a successful relationship?
- A little secret on how to make her want to kiss you: when you are talking to her, first look at her mouth, then raise your eyes, so they meet hers, and then look back at her mouth again when she is talking to you. Nonetheless, do not get lost too much in thoughts, and listen to what she is saying.
- Do not seem too eager. If both people want a relationship, they should contribute equally. Send her messages regularly to know that you are thinking of her, but if you send her messages too often, especially cheesy ones, and expect her to reply instantly, she can quickly become annoyed with you because it shows you do not care about the fact that she has a life.
- Always be excited and talk with energy, regardless of the topic. Even if you are not feeling too good, try to show excitement. Do not look down when you are talking to your lady.
- If you know her well enough to make a move, go for it. Use eye contact as an indication that she wants to kiss you. In case it feels like she wants to wait, let her take her time. Do not make her scared or uncomfortable.
- Text messaging can create a mysterious aura around you. But you should not be too keen on texting, because live communication is still much more effective.
- Move forward by spending time with her without making her the primary focus. For instance, you can go see a movie with your mutual friends or study together. It can be difficult and awkward to advance too fast, so just be patient.
- Always respect her and her wishes. Never try to force her into something or try to change her mind.
- Even if you are fighting, be polite with her and do not throw insults at her – you will regret it later.
- Be playful and tease her. Of course, you should be careful and see when it is appropriate, but if you are always in a bad mood and have no sense of humor, the woman will quickly get bored with you.
- Get close to her relatives and make a good impression on them.
- Do small things for her like doing dishes or taking out the trash. This will show her that you are ready for family life.
- Bring a red rose on your first date. It is a romantic and sweet move, without being too suggestive.
Things you should not do
- Cheating on her is a huge no. If you want a relationship with one woman, you should commit to her.
- Rebounding with someone right after you broke up with your previous love interest is unfair to the person who you use as a rebound. Take some time after a breakup and do not jump into new relationships too quickly.
- Gossiping about her, especially with people who know her, is something you really should not do. In case you need to discuss your girlfriend’s actions with someone, speak to your closest people: your parents or best friend. If you just go around talking about her and revealing what is happening in your relationship, someone will tell her sooner or later.
- Finally, if she does not like you, she will say no. Do not take it personally: perhaps this was not meant to be. A “no” means no, and you should never stalk her, convince her to love you, or threaten her. This will only make both of you unhappy. Just move on and find someone else who will be much better for you. Do not get obsessed with one woman and take it as the end of the world if she rejected you. Maybe she is not what you expect her to be. There are billions of people on planet Earth and among them, you will surely find your soulmate.
This was a list of tips for those who want to know how to toast a lady. We hope some of them will work for you. Always be positive!
If you want to read which qualities women find the most attractive in men, you can check out this article! It will help you to become a man that every woman wants to see by her side.